Look at each other

I’m exposing myself now and may get beat up, but I read to the end. Maybe we can meet halfway.

The man is the head of the family and the wives must be 5 … obedient to their husbands (Living Bible). Many people don’t like this. I don’t like it either, and I suspect it’s because so many men abuse their role as head of the family.

Many of them did not fulfill their part of the agreement. There was no orientation. Love, only when they wanted it. They took and they took and they gave nothing. His way of life did not earn respect. And when everything is over and the music is soft, the husband draws a line in the sand: women must be obedient to their husbands and do what they say …

It’s easy to understand why Anel (not her real name) couldn’t bear to stay with her husband:

My ex-husband was involved with my boss. It destroyed everything: my job, my relationships, and my marriage. Huge pain.

That is not how it works. It’s even less how God intended it to work. The husband is not the head of the wife. The wife is definitely not the husband’s doormat. That’s why I like the translation of The Message better: 5By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives.

A wife will easily admire her husband with love if he treats her well. She will be grateful and treat him well, because he takes care of her, he gives her what her heart desires, he is her friend, her protector, the one who makes her laugh out loud. Then she will admire and miss him very much when he is not with her. She will enjoy serving you.

In fact, husband and wife must serve each other. Obey each other. And look at each other. This is how God intended it to be. Each of us should have our own recipe to get there.

Martie’s Secret:

I am proud to say that my beloved Hennie and I have been married for 30 wonderful years. Our success is built on faith, trust, communication, and lots of laughs.

Golden Doep:

I am lucky to have a good wife. We have been married for 22 years now. We have only three rules in our relationship. We never go to sleep still angry at each other. She doesn’t hit me and I don’t hit her. We are always honest with each other, and if one of us makes a mistake, we work it out together.

Let’s live in a way that makes our spouses admire us. Let us live our marriages in such a way that others look at us and the Name of God is glorified.

Holy Scripture
Titus 2: 1-5

Reflection
How is your relationship?
Where do you have to work on it?
How can they really laugh together again?

Pray
Father, you know better. The day my partner and I got married was also your will. Along the way, we have made some decisions that were a bit wrong. Maybe we fall asleep and forget about each other. I want to relive your will in my marriage. In the name of Jesus. Amen.