How to improve your sex life: 12 things you can do
Many men complain that their wives are not as enthusiastic about sex as they used to be. This is especially after they have children and wives often say they don’t have the energy for sex. However, some couples, despite their busy lifestyles juggling careers, children, and homes, are still able to continue to enjoy great sex.
What are your secrets?
(1) Make an effort to improve communication
Communication is how we get to know another person. Get used to talking every day about how you feel. Share your thoughts and ideas, likes and dislikes, feelings and deepest needs with your partner. Ask him what he likes. If you get to know yourself and your partner well through better communication, you are more likely to have a much more erotic and explosive relationship.
(2) Do not blindly believe the boasts of others.
When men talk to each other, they often exaggerate about their exploits to make themselves look better to their peers. This can create distorted images of their sex lives with each other. As a result, many men wonder if they are missing something in their sex life and why they can’t enjoy sex like everyone else.
(3) Accept that sex is never perfect
Don’t compare your sex life to porn. What you see in porn is often very far from reality with perfectly built men and women having exciting sex. One of the most destructive myths about pornography is that it tries to make men feel like they are too small. Some of the other fictions that pornography perpetuates are the idea that women are always ready for sex and that the same moves work with all partners. However, you can use pornography to inspire you to further sexual exploration, but keep in mind that what you see in pornography is not reality.
(4) Focus on physical sensations
Sex is best when there is no expectation of anything in particular happening. Some guys can get so stressed out because they’re worried about performance. To achieve an optimal orgasm, simply focus on the pleasurable sensations. Get totally in tune with the moment with her. You can set her tone by teasing her slowly, touching her hands, arms, face, neck, and back before moving on to the more erotic areas. Let her body cues (eg, change in skin color, her expression, her moans) guide you where to spend more time at any particular erotic point where she is most sensitive to her stimulation.
(5) Create a more conductive bedroom atmosphere
If you can do something to transform your bedroom into something new and different, it can make a world of difference in your sex life. Lighting some candles or changing the intensity of the lights in the room to give it a more romantic tone is an option to consider. Getting a better set of sheets and a new bedspread can go a long way. You can give your room more space by removing things like children’s toys, piles of clothes that tend to accumulate in the bedroom. Consider getting rid of the TV in the bedroom as well, or at least try life without it for a while. The bedroom should be a private place for couples to interact and understand each other better, and watching TV is a great distraction for communication.
(6) Arrange time for sex
Some people may feel this is rather unromantic because, in their opinion, sex should be spontaneous. But with modern city life becoming increasingly busy and stressful, not making extra time for sex is likely to result in a gradual decrease in the frequency of sexual intercourse.
Instead of putting a lot of pressure on you to perform at a certain time, scheduling can make sex more relaxing. You can develop certain sensual rituals, making romantic gestures, sending sexy text messages in anticipation of your meeting. You can get a massage or take a shower together. Scheduling lovemaking sessions can also eliminate conflict over differences in sexual drives by agreeing in advance on how often both parties should have sex (by making some kind of compromise).
(7) Make some changes
Changes may mean trying to do something different together to break the routine. This can be making love in different places or trying different lovemaking positions that are mutually pleasing, or injecting role-play into your sexual encounter. Sometimes you can do something crazy or extraordinary, like watch scary movies, ride a roller coaster, go on a trip to unusual places, go to a wine tasting or cooking session, sign up for yoga or dance classes together. .
(8) Not avoiding sexual problems
People who have sexual problems often turn away from sexuality because they fear facing failure. But these issues need to be addressed head on. Erectile dysfunction gets the most attention, but there are other problems as well, such as premature ejaculation, low libido, pain during intercourse, vaginal dryness, or difficulty reaching orgasm caused by medications or medical conditions.
While some sexual problems may need medical attention, others can be resolved by trying different intercourse techniques. The main thing is not to muddle through with your problems and suffer in silence.
Attend therapy with or without your partner. Through therapy, you can work through problems you’re having with sex or bring your partner in to talk about how to communicate better so you can find ways to work through sexual problems together. Visit the doctor to talk about the decrease in your sexual desire so that he/she can come up with a certain treatment or therapy or prescribe you alternative medicines if the medicines/pills you are currently taking affect your sex life.
(9) Don’t rush
Going slow in sex gives you enough time to build up the sexual tension and make her want you more. Maybe when you’re on the couch, you can start caressing her and slowly kissing her. Put her in the mood and make her want to go to the next level.
The best sex arises from full-body sensuality, which means you have to shift your focus from reaching the goal to just enjoying the whole process. Making love quietly benefits both parties. Women are more aroused and enjoy sex, while men have fewer sexual problems and feel more confident in bed. Many men find that their sexual problems (such as premature ejaculation) go away when they take their own sweet time.
(10) Exercise and proper diet
If health and fitness aren’t compelling reasons for you to exercise, how about improving your sex life? Running, walking and swimming can increase the resistance of your heart. Ex sometimes requires you to hold unusual positions for a short period of time and weight training can help condition the muscles in your body for longer lasting sex. Doing some stretching exercises after workouts or yoga can help improve your body’s flexibility so that you can easily assume any sexual position.
Eat well, but be careful not to eat too much, especially right before sex. Eating certain foods can increase sexual desire. Foods that contain vitamin A, B, C, E, as well as zinc, selenium, manganese, antioxidants, and phytoestrogens are natural sex enhancers. Or, you can try foods like celery, raw oysters, and bananas.
(11) Breathing exercises
Take long, quick, deep breaths in through your nostrils, and then out through your mouth. As you do this, visualize yourself breathing oxygen into your entire body or focusing it on that one area you want to feel energized. Keep doing this until you feel your body start to energize. You can then get to your bed. During your lovemaking session, continue to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Continue with this way of breathing and you will feel your body gain more energy and increase its resistance.
(12) Don’t give up
Having a better sex life will require some effort on the part of you and your partner. You should expect setbacks on some of your attempts. Trying something new always carries some risk of failure. The most important thing is to keep trying.