How to deal with friends who aren’t there for you

This is a great topic; I’m glad a follower asked me to write about dealing with a friend or friends who aren’t there for you. It saddens me to say that you will be surprised who will step up and help you in your time of need. And you will also be even more surprised by the friend or friends who are not there for you in this time of need.

It’s easy to be a friend in happy times; the world loves a good time. But get involved in some drama or financial loss and see where your best friend is, probably among the missing. Now she will have her own personal reasons for not being there, but unfortunately it’s not about her, it’s about your problems. Now is that a true loyal friend, well, I guess not!

A true friend is someone who can understand your past, believe in your future, and most of all, accept who you are today. A true friend can keep a secret and be there when you need her.

I prepared a test to determine if your friend is really your friend. Ask yourself if she makes you feel better or worse when you need her. Anyone can be there during the good times, is she there during the hard times? Will she help you without making you feel guilty? Have you been through difficult times with her and have you survived? Does she allow you to be you without any limitations? I hope you can say yes to all my questions, if not you need to reevaluate the relationship. And before we continue, there is no such thing as a bad friend: a bad friend is not a friend, you know?

How do you deal with friends who are not there for you? Well, first of all, friendship is what I call toxic (sick and flawed). I suggest that if your friends are toxic, walk away from them and start over. I have done this, it can be done. Replace them with caring and supportive people who will be there for you. How do you do it? Just explore new hobbies, hobbies, and interests. And as always you have to live well to be well